The Sounds of Silence

     It's the moment when you are having that "discussion" with your chhild that you reach the point where the unthinkable happens-they say or do something that goes beyond the point of no return for you.  At that time, I pick myself up and say "That's it.  I don't want to talk anymore."  And I don't.  I walk away and don't answer.
     People have told me that reacting that way is childish on my part, and that it is better to get it all out.  I don't agree.  People say hurtful things in anger and I am no different.  But to keep on going when the situation is escalating can get out of control.  For me, it is better to walk away and cool down, than say something that may last within my children or husband's psyche for years.  I always say"words mean something."
     My family like to talk.  It drives my husband crazy if I don't talk to him.  He will keep after me and try to wear me down to talk.  I tell him once or twice to leave me alone.  If he persists, I just get up and don't answer him.  But it isn't really about him, it's about the way I feel.  My kids will ususally be ok with me not speaking (not surprising!) and it really doesn't happen that often.  After a while things cool down and get back to normal.
     How do you all deal with arguments and do you talk it out or give the silent treatment?